She gave us word pictures.
Mirror/Selfishness: We often times point out the flaws we see in our husband. But instead of pointing the mirror at us, we needd to turn that mirror around and look at ourselves and see what it is revealing about us. She gave us a quote from an author which said, "One of the best wedding gifts God gave you was a full-length mirror called your spouse. Had there been a card attached it would have said, "here's to helping you discover what you're REALLY like." (Gary and Betsy Ricucci)
Chairs: What chair would our marriage sit in? Chair #1 Exciting! Love is new-hot, passionate, all consuming, giving, thoughtful. Chari #2 Satissfying, Fullfilling-Love is not so new, but really good. It's sometimes hot and passionate; it's been tested, good communication, best friends. Chair #3 Routine-Love has grown stale, mediocre-not much attnetion has been paid to it so it's getting pretty mediocre, mundane. Chair #4 Dead-Love is pretty dead. You may still be together, but it's on the rocks as far as real fun, satisfaction, joy, friendship. You're in the chair that no only you think you're in, but in the one your spouse thinks you're in. (EEK!)
Love Bank: We can't be writing checks on an account where no deposits are being made. Eventually the bank will be dry.
Leftovers: Our spouses often get the leftovers of our life when everything else is taken care of. While children and our jobs/volunteer work may take a lot of time, our spouses need to be our top priority after Jesus. Our spouses deserve our best, not our leftovers.
I didn't leave MOPS that Tuesday with the same warm and fuzzy, refreshed and filled up feeling I usually have. I left feeling very convicted. Which is good because I KNOW I needed it!
So I went on my way with my day with this feeling of conviction in my heart and I was ready to be the wife God intended me to be for my husband.
Unfortunately Satan was ready to pounce.
And around 5 o'clock Satan struck and arrived as an unwanted dinner guest.
I was frustrated with My Sweetie and grouchy with the kids and my mind was whirling with all kinds of not so nice things and my heart was hurting.
Then those word pictures stared to flash in my mind;chairs, love bank, leftovers!
Ok God, yeah,I get it but, but, but what about me? What happens when I feel like I'm getting the leftovers????
Another word picture flashed....selfishness and mirror!
I was feeling defeated and hopeless and I just wanted to go to bed and start again the next day.
Then God reminded me of a song,one I thought my husband "just needed to hear".
So I pulled it up and listened. As I listened God convicted me again and that mirror I had been pointing towards my husband was now pointing at me; I was the one who needed to listen all along.
So I wanted to share with all of you....maybe its another God thing, maybe one of you need it too. There is a lyric which refers to "my wife" but if YOU are the wife, you can easily change it to "my husband" and it still applies.
The end of the song is my favorite, its a prayer; one that I repeated over and over that evening in my kitchen. It's a call out to God that we can't be the wives and mothers, husbands and fathers that God has created us and called us to be without HIM leading us.